Certain situations can cause you to question yourself on some many levels. Something painful and/or traumatizing can try to strip away the powerful, confident, amazing being you are knowing yourself to be.
Consistently reminding myself that I'm not anything in the outside world and I'm not the emotions my body is experiencing is vital. These outer and inner objects come and go or some linger like residue but it's not who I am.
Who am I? Who is having all these physical, emotional and mental experiences?
When I separate myself slowly but surely, I realize I am still me ...strong, happy, aware, peaceful, creative, beautiful & etc.
I have to contemplate things alil deeper sometimes. Eventually, I get to a point within myself where I realize that I have a certain quality. I have a certain awareness, consciousness, an intuitiveness that is becoming one with my existence. I can't let certain things be or not express my truth and clarity.
Before my enlightenment it wouldn't be a big deal but once you have been exposed to the light you can never truly return to the darkness.
"You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes." - The Matrix.
Without realizing who and what you truly are you can never experience true Happiness that is Whole.